I'm going to put all this in my book bag because I'm from the streets the air. Yeah. What's going on? It's your boy ambition and welcome to another episode of The my FB podcast and today with me I have the mindset coach of mindset coaches. I'm telling you, she's mentored myself. She's a mentor within a premium coaching program, has rent just finished running her second women on a mission summit and is always always always focused on her mission. What just came out of a 75 day hard challenge of working out twice a day to enter back into a 30 day hard challenge. Today with me I have Miss Shay on a mission. What's going on che
Unknown Speaker 0:48
Westside Westside Westside, thank you for the intro. Thank you for the intro.
No, of course, of course. So talk to us a little bit about what you do and what is it that you actually help people with?
Unknown Speaker 1:00
All right, so I'm a mental fitness coach. That's basically mindset training. I help startup and driven entrepreneurs get to the mindset that they can have a winner's mindset and, you know, incorporate that to have cashflow. Um, you know, definitely, Mr. Ambition gave a great intro about me and stuff like that. I love speaking, I just got finished speaking at two schools in the past six weeks, I Kurt, I don't wait for opportunities that create opportunity. So I create, just like he did mention, I did create my summit, I did get finished doing the 75 hard challenge. And that challenge was overall very, very intense. I did try to do the 30 on the next phase. But life got the best of me. And I felt like I'm studying for phase one. Just didn't align with what I got going on in life right now. So I, I purposely failed myself, and stuff like that, and that thing, but I don't see it as a failure, I see that it just wasn't alignment. And I'm not going to force something that just doesn't resonate with what's going on in my life right now.
That's real talk. I, you know what, I'm glad that you do take that approach as well. Because, you know, seeing you go 75 days hard, and then listening to you say, you know, what, 30 days is not where it is right now, a lot of people may be listening, and they hear a lot of people telling them go hard, go hard, go hard. They're not hearing people tell them when they take the rest. So thank you for that.
Unknown Speaker 2:26
Yeah, I think that the whole fact of the matter is like it was more intense with the work that I had to do. And I just basically made it, it's I just recently, it's going almost three, four weeks, I haven't I mean, three, four weeks going in now. And I decided to go full time and on its own in my own time. So what I'm doing live on the side, what I'm doing my coaching business on the side, doing my motivational speaking, I own my time, every single day, and stuff like that, you know, I mean, I still get scheduled podcast recordings, like we're doing right now and stuff like that. But overall, I made a decision to own my own time. So that time, it has to be adjusted to what matters right now, I got to make sure that there's a roof over my head. You know, I think that sometimes when people jump into entrepreneur space, they think that oh, well, you gotta go all in and ignore your bills. I'm gonna call up nah, some of this was getting postponed right now because I'm making sure my house comes first right now. And it's, it's no pun intended, like, literally, like you either. Put it this way, a person that wants your business, they're gonna be okay. And then we're gonna do something with it, they're gonna be understand, especially, you know, when somebody that doesn't want to pay you, is somebody that does want to pay you. I told my investors already, I'm like, yo, you ain't gonna payment till next week. So don't be calling me all week. That's what it is and stuff. And that's the real, and everything. You know, one of my current coach said it best. He said, My livelihood and my house comes first. And ever since coming, and that's one of the things I did not do. And I ran into problems. When I first took my leap of faith back in 2017. I learned from previous times what's coming first, what bills need to get paid first build, I had to wait, that bill gonna have to wait on this bill gonna get paid now and stuff like that. And, you know, I'm nowhere near there. And people are like, Oh, well, you know, the rule of entrepreneurship is to leave once you have three to six months. That's good. If you gotta if you gotta like that they leave after three to six months, you know, but, you know, me coming into my one year of being in my three bedroom apartment. One of the things that I learned was, you know, I didn't need that much to actually move out. I stayed in a rooming house for five years because I had this misallocation I needed $5,000 just to move out when I typically only need about 2k And I just needed to find the right landlord that was sent me whether they accepted my credit score, and he did and so my credit score, I was fortunate enough, they didn't have that much credit score, and I was able to get into a three bedroom that most people wouldn't would have not got into. So I'm it's been nothing but a blessing and I've been staying on top of it, you know, and stuff like that. And that's always been a priority. So people you know, got a priority. You gotta prioritize when you're trying to really go On his full time entrepreneur life, and it's okay if you have to go back into the workforce. But my goal is this second time around. Secondly, faith is not to go back.
I love the fact that you say, this is your second time going full time entrepreneur. I know, you know, for me, this seven months has been my first time going full time. And, you know, I do look at it as if I could do it again, I'm probably not going to do it again, I don't know if I'm going to do it again. I know if I, it wouldn't be necessary for me to have a job for long if I did get a job. That's the honest truth. But, um, the fact that you were willing to go back and get a job, I think that speaks to something right. And a lot of people I believe are traumatized from the workforce. And they don't work on healing themselves, whether they jump into entrepreneurship, or they stay at home, but they don't, they don't jump into healing the relationship that they've developed with money that they've developed with their survival and all of those things. And I believe that's personally what prevents a lot of people from taking that jump and saying, I'm going to go full time entrepreneur and then going, Oh, I can't go back to a job. I absolutely can't go back to a job, and then purposefully suffering for no reason. Right? Um, I think that's a, it's great that you put it into frame that way where, look, in a healthy mindset, you take care of what needs to be taken care of,
Unknown Speaker 6:24
right? Well, the first time I took a look, it was emotional. This the second time wasn't like this second time wasn't, was logical. So that's the big difference between the two. The first time when I took the leap of faith, it will had to do with, man, I need a break. I ended up going back to the job that I ended up needing a break from it was with FedEx, and I just needed a break. I just basically put my two weeks in finish on my two weeks, I came back from vacation, I came back from vacation, then I put my two weeks in, and then I left and stuff like that. And it is like it was very emotional. It wasn't nothing. There was no game plan. I didn't know what I wanted to do fires entrepreneurship. So I definitely know that I'm very, very further along and it comes with a dear friend of mine that recently passed away earlier this year, from childbirth and stuff like that. She said his best. Yeah, yeah, she went to college, me and everything. And it was really shocking how she passed away. And I'm the one that taught things over the past two or three years since I heard her first say this. She said I'll get any job but I know my expiration date. So you know me knowing jobs I get in I'm already master getting the job. I've been saying this for a while now I've mastered?
Unknown Speaker 8:15
Yes, so like I was saying, like, I remember when I was 22, and stuff like that. And, um, my I was 22. And I probably had like 10 jobs that year and stuff like that. I've already mastered getting a job. Now I want the next phase of mastering me, going into a spectrum of not coming back to the workforce couldn't have for the first time I took the leap of faith. I never I didn't have oh, well, I'm never going back to workforce, I needed a break from Workforce this time. I have the mindset, I don't want to go back to workforce like if I do, it's going to be commission or it's going to be it's going to be some type of still controlled, and it's going to be a meaning behind it and an expiration date behind it. It was never intended on being long term. Like I mean, I just got I had a little work from home job that I took over during the wintertime for like, six or seven weeks. And I'm like, no, what this crap gotta go. I knew I was trying to lasted until March. It lasted to the beginning of February, and stuff like that. And it's just a relative like a job comes down and doesn't I'm not saying that I'm you know, beneath a job. No, I truly job is just into lessons. Because if you really look at the spectrum and changes of positive thinking, because in this in this entrepreneurial world, we look at job, it's just over broke. Yeah, well, you could look at adjustments of lessons and it could be on to the blessing of what you want next in life and stuff like that. That's the that's the part of it stepping stage or what you're going to take some type of skill, I can say from FedEx, I learned I learned Critical Thinking real quick, because the simple fact is, you know, I can basically get into a detour at the detour my route or a car accident or a truck breaks down whatever the case may be. And I have to detour right and figure out to finish out in a timely manner or I'm gonna be stuck out there all day because I'm done when the last packages done. So I can turn around and wait to traffic but I'm, I'm big put up, there's a line, okay, let me go down this street and make a detour and go, you know, come back to later. I've done that a lot. And that's the same thing in life. You know, okay, this is not going right, let me make a detour and come back to that later. I'm like writing my book, like, I mean, I'm on a new stalemate and a new challenge in my book, my publisher is not working and communicating with me. So now I have to revert him playing out different perspectives to finish out publishing my book, and stuff like that. So it's the whole fact of matter is oh, I can stall and wait play the wait game and wait for him to call me in two or three months. Or I can just take legal action, and finish out the book still, I got the final manuscript, it's edited. So I just got to basically continue on personal procedure for so you know, a lot of every job that I can honestly say, I've learned something from it, hands down, and a little aspect. And when people like I mean, I remember when I went to my speaking engagement last Wednesday, the one kids like, well, what's the point of going to school when like, you can go to school and utilize those critical skills, a lot of people in school, learn critical skills of just time management. And when you go out into the real world, and you jump from high school to just the workforce, you don't learn those critical time management skills, and you get lost because you don't know how to adapt. You don't know how to be committed.
I had a talk with school, I think they were in Chicago was remote talk. And they were asking, you know, what skills from school that I use as an entrepreneur, I was like, I told him, I use all of it. Because the truth is, I use, I use my math when I'm doing business, right? Something added up on stripe, I'll bust out that calculus level math real quick. We need to figure this out what's going on with
Unknown Speaker 11:42
smart and you said that because the history like if you think about it, we have to model success. So that's the history of who's already successful Oprah Jeff Bezos great card on and also goes on,
you know, what the other side of history teaches us that there's these time periods that a lot of these businesses that we're looking at today, they took advantage of. So I, I can't even remember the name of it if you can, if someone wants to look it up, they can. But there's a guy that ended up amassing a fortune because when the Great Depression happened, he bought up all the docs, he bought up all the pairs, there was nothing going on. There was no import happening. Once everything opened back up. He owns all the piers, he owns all of the all of the docks, right, he owns all of the boats. So it's also understanding what you need to do in certain periods of history. Shoot, copywriting is a big thing. If you're entrepreneur right now, how are you going to get people to click the link or just open up your email or even want to listen to you? Right, like, so I tell them all of it, if you're writing you need to know how to write. If you're lucky enough to have a speech class, and they having to stand up and speak something you need to learn how to do that. It really kind of has created this space for me where everything is usable, right? Or it's just about how elastic I'm going to let my mind be. So it's the same thing you say with the job. I definitely agree with you. I think all of our experiences, give us an edge. They give us a little bit of a superpower. It's up to us to figure out what that is, though.
Unknown Speaker 13:22
Yeah, I can definitely holistically say I have a big superpower for having being 15 years in logistics, like you know.
Yeah, God, this is the first time it's ever done this.
Unknown Speaker 14:15
Yeah. So I mean, you know, like I said, I was saying I had a logistics company that I might potentially have a have some type of, you know, networking or some type of selling opportunity with them, and help them expand because of my logistics, background and stuff like that. So, you know, he cares a show that just because you was in a dumb industry doesn't mean that you can't apply or implement, could have might trigger something that you can utilize in that current situation, and everything. So that's what I do.
No, I totally 150,000% agree with you. And it really is important that you are adaptable. Right. So let's move on to the next big question for those people who are looking to make leap of faith and they don't want to make an emotional process, what are the steps that they should take before they go out and jump full ass into an entrepreneur journey?
Unknown Speaker 15:09
First of all, you definitely got to have a have a have a mindset that is mindset that is going to be capable of handling hard times. You know, right before this actual, you know, myth or ambition of mine is like my, my right hand now and stuff like that. And, you know, sometimes I get some brotherly advice, so you need to definitely have your so you need to include your support system in it, it is your final decision. Don't think about perfectionism, you know, that whole habit is, it'd be great. If you can get up to that point, having three to six months, you know, paid off then cool, but if you got to other some other resources that you that can equate, like, I was able to make the leap and still do my I still do what I do with my business. And until my business flourishes, I can still do lift on the side, I'm not no shaming what I do. On the side, you know, lift lift can be profitable with certain people in a you know, it's it's all about how you get go get it, I mean, alone lift I make between 12 to 1500 a week, and stuff like that. So that doubt honestly makes more than any job that I did I qualify for right now.
I love the fact that you just kind of you just roll with it. Because there's a motivational speaker on the market that I know for a fact is clear in pockets. We're talking 10s of 1000s for a keynote, right? And for sure, I know when he first jumped out of the military. He was he was doing all of that he was door dashing and doing whatever he had to do because the hustle was what he was about. Right. And I think that's something that people need to learn how to respect we need to stop hiding those things, right? Like, we're feeling ashamed of the fact that you're making an honest day's dollar like, when did it become when did it become like uncool to actually work for money?
Unknown Speaker 17:04
It's the whole fact that matter is, you know, people have this misconception of entrepreneurship, and the journey for they get the misconception of entrepreneur journey. And that's what the whole fact of matter is, you know, Eric Thomas, he was working at Olive Garden Daymond John, he was working at Red Lobster, Jeff Bezos, McDonald's, you all know these individuals. You need to look them up Jeff Bezos David chan Cheesecake Factory. Exactly. So when you start when you start looking at their beginning stages, I mean Grant Cardone, he was a car dealer you know and stuff like that. Um, I mean, I knew he was a he was an alcohol
it's really doing this again
Grant Cardone was alcoholic.
Unknown Speaker 18:12
Yeah. And you know, when me now I've gotten to, I think that people get to this point of in being flashy or being catchy, really understanding where the money comes from, to get where they need to be at. And that's what the problem is. And in order for us to prosper, we need to really figure out what it what it takes to get to the Kashi moment. You understand, like, you know, I met if I was I was listening to to I think his name is MJ, I forget MJ he's you know,
Unknown Speaker 18:43
yeah, thanks for you know that.
Yeah, I haven't
Unknown Speaker 18:47
the gay insurance guy. Is he gay? Yeah, thanks. So yeah, he has a son his son always I mean that somebody has nephews always wrong and and stuff like that. But anyways, he said a statement where he used to wear a lot of flashy suits when he first started coming up. And he stopped doing that he recently stopped doing that. So I think that everybody needs to start really thinking about not all the flat like me, I wear hoodies, I wear sweatpants. That's my that's my everyday gear, and stuff like that. I'm not about I'm not about the flashiness. I mean, I mean, literally, I still, to this day, don't even own a pair of sneakers, marry a pair of Jordans and stuff like that. We'll probably do it one day, if I feel like it, but I'm not a sneaker head. So, you know, regardless, I don't really feel like I'm ever gonna be like a big sneaker head. Regardless, when I come up, and stuff like that. I probably make my kids maybe if they want to, but I won't be a sneaker head.
I know I totally get that. I think some of the times what we spend money on doesn't make a whole lot of sense. If I know that I can spend $400 and make 800 Why would I spend $400 To make my feet look nice, you know, it starts it starts not making sense, the more money you make and when you figure out how Make Money. And then I to be very honest with you, the only reason that I dress the way I dress or I buy nice clothes period is for the level of influence, right? I feel like
Unknown Speaker 20:12
the only time I'm buying buying really flashy stuff or a nice clothes and stuff like that is for like, isn't for engagement, it's for a special special cause. Making movies,
making clothes making money. Right, exactly. That's exactly where I'm at. Um, the Well, what I was about to say with it as well is exactly as you said, make the clothes make you money, but also get to a point where you're wearing your own brand. Right? Like, that's where I'm at, like, the shirt that I'm wearing is module fucking business shirt and why FB podcast? Right, exactly where we're at. Um, I think that that's really that I think would be the next wave of flashy to me. If it if it's, if it's your brand, if it's your logo, then yeah, that means something.
Unknown Speaker 21:09
Yeah, yeah, most times I'm wearing most times, I'm wearing either my, you know, my mission is bigger than me t shirt I'm wearing, you know, my hat, since I wear my mission builder, smelly cat, smelly hat, and stuff like that. So I'm more aware, my passionate work my tribes name, when my tribe name is called Passion warriors. So I'll wear that T shirt. So I definitely get that and everything like that. Um, and then sometimes if I don't, I mean, I've got so many different hoodies that I support at other people's brands, but I want I'll wear those on like nine days where I'm not trying to market nobody, and stuff like that, you know, if I'm out, you know, if I'm out and about, and I know I'm gonna be taking pictures or you know, do content and stuff like that, I'm wearing my brand. And that's how I honestly should be, you know, you might honestly wear something underneath, that's not your brand, and whatever gets me that's cool. And stuff like that. But you do need to get to a point where I am the foundation of what I am and stuff like that. And you gotta you gotta be proud for all of that, you know, you can't be caught up in while this person is making an S person make an ad, it's unacceptable.
No, I totally agree with you. I think that, um, we within the social media generation, we kind of get lost in what we see. And we get lost wanting what other people have, not understanding what they did to get it or what it even means to have it. You know, one of the things that I, you know, I always thought I wanted this luxury car that costs x amount of money. And now I have the type of car that cost that amount of money. And I'm going, I wish I didn't have to spend this amount of money. You know, I mean, so it's really, people just got to understand whatever you want, it comes with a certain ask of you, it comes with a sacrifice, right? If you want to be an entrepreneur is going to be some tough days and some lonely nights, right? Whether you have a partner or not, because the thought of what are you going to do to make this work tomorrow is one that your partner is not going to be inside of your head trying to figure out with you, right? Whether you got an entire team does it so I believe there's a consequence to everything that we want, whether it's good or bad. And so long as you're willing to pay the toll. You'll come out the other side, fine, but if you fight it, that's really where we see people get torn up. Right? Even for myself, I I feel like I've been tearing myself up by going oh, these are there these things that I don't want to do, instead of just doing them and getting the result.
Unknown Speaker 23:39
Right. There's a lot of stuff that I don't feel like, I mean, I don't like doing I don't I mean, I know how to make content, but I don't feel like doing it. You know, I don't you know, like keeping track of everything you know, and stuff like that. Like there's just certain things that you just got to adapt to. And it'll come in time. And there's a time when you got to put like I said, like right now, I sometimes have this ton of like, alright, to my mentee, I'm gonna text away but I'm on grind week, this is grind week for me because I got some personal things that I need to pay off. I got some things that needs to be focused on. And it's, it's that real, and everything I saw, like me, like, you know, I even you know, for me basically getting to a point of where I want to do in life and how I want to proceed my business and stuff like that. I became to the point of okay, I am falling back from doing my life, you know, and stuff like that. So mission builder lives, it's on a stalemate right now, and I'm trying to reach redist redefine where I want and how I want to do it what I want to do it once a week, whether I want to take a break for the rest of the quarter come bring it back or you know, like I haven't decided and that's my prerogative because when in business you you know, you got to switch things up. It can't be redundant, you know, name a name and business where the logo is still the same to this day. They changed it up some type of way. They changed the brand, they changed the menus, they changed something you know, and everything like that burger at Burger King just changed back to the old school version. Where was when back when we was when we've in the 90s? You know, and stuff like that? I don't even know they changed it. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, I mean it was they still look the same a little bit like what it like I think it was like red black, but then they changed back to like the bun and then the red and then a white.
You know, I do remember them going red and black.
Unknown Speaker 25:18
It was riddled with red and blue, something like red and blue and stuff like that. So they, they mixed it up. And then I think it was like at one point it had BK on it and stuff like that. And that was their symbol, and stuff like that. So even Walmart, Walmart definitely can't remember Walmart back in the day had a smiley face around and stuff like that. So they changed it to the little stars and stuff like that, because I guess they didn't want to, you know, like know who's
famous for that Adidas, Adidas has about four different logo variations, and they've changed a number of times over the years as well.
Unknown Speaker 25:45
Yeah, and that's that's just a fact of life. So like, you know, like my logo, I just change Chanda mission logo. Just recently, earlier this year, it was a different one. And I had that logo for about at least two years, and stuff like that. So it comes a point when change is necessary. You know, I just my late life has changed dramatically in the past year, and stuff like that, is some people like oh, that didn't really what me if they see it as a year, because five years ago, what I was doing was living in a rooming house, you know, and stuff like that. And now I got a three bedroom and stuff like that, then you know, this time last year, I was still working FedEx, you know, now not even working at FedEx, you know, and stuff like that. So it really just shows the growth and the changes that happen in life and stuff like that. And, you know, I didn't expect to even go leave, I didn't, I didn't know I didn't have a timeline when I wanted to go take my leap of faith. I just knew when the time was right. And it goes back to you got to be logical with you gotta be logical with the decision making check in with your support system before you make some drastic checking the right support system, somebody that's either I took the leap of faith, or somebody that understands what you're going through and stuff like that. Because, you know, a ploy friend is gonna tell you not don't quit your job, what you got left back up, and everything the other person has employed as an entrepreneur, oh, man, they're gonna understand and they're gonna let you know, hands down like now I don't think they're smart move. Oh, yes, smart move. Like once I broke it down to people. And I made sense. And I said, Yo, I can make this in one week doing doing this. They all said, Okay, let John go. And stuff like that. And he made it it all made sense to them and stuff like that. And I didn't look about the negative of all well, this can happen and that can happen to stay in a stuck position forever and ever I'm at the I'm at peace, I'm actually able to get get rapidly pay some of the things off that probably would have not been able to pay off if I still had this, this dead weight on me. And stuff like that. So it made sense. Logically, you know, stuff like sometimes it makes sense to stay. But sometimes if it doesn't have no benefits, it doesn't no growth, you don't see no changes. They make an all these different demands. And you ready like me, like at same time, me being able to have the flu, I wouldn't if I would like it was a great feeling. Last week, when I got the I saw the message on Facebook from a mutual friend of mine saying, hey, I need some speakers to come to school. Like I signed up. I said, I'm coming through, they said coming up, I signed up for that Wednesday, two days later, I kind of like, if I'm like, logically, I would have had to either call for work or something. I'm gonna be taking a little bit of a longer break and go do this, do this. I'm speaking engagement or just basically come on, oh, I got a doctor's appointment. And then I'll come back and make up the hours I'm I was over that, and stuff like that. So it was a great feeling where I got to do what I got to do for whole day, went to go take care of that went to go to speak and gators got to, you know, connect with the kids and then went on by my business.
Not that's true. And I definitely feel you on that, I think was it it was about? I want to say 2019 Right? Motivational speaker friend comes out, right? And he knows I've been trying to get into the field for a minute. So he came out. And he had a speech at a school over in LA. So he's like, Yo, come with me. Right? And I'm sitting there like, Oh, I'm working. I'm thinking about it. And then I went like, do what the what are you? What are you talking about? You're working? Stand up and go toe to toe dude, you leaving? And I'm like, Oh yeah, I'm wrong. What am I doing? Right?
Unknown Speaker 29:08
So it's one thing that people have a missed application when it comes to Job, Job don't run you you run a job that meet each other. And the whole fact of matter is some people are scared teller job, I'm about to go do it. They don't You don't first one, you don't have to tell them anything that you're going to do outside work. They don't tell you what you need to do. They don't tell you behind the scenes at the business is struggling. And stuff like that. So it's a it's a hand in hand thing and you got to see what you want to know what's best for you. And stuff like that. Like I mean, if it's a good paying job is doing, it's paying your bills, it's flourishing certain things, keep it but if it's if it's going to constant conflict with what you're trying to do, then you got to make a judgment call and that's what I like hands down and like towards the end of the job when I was before I resigned from the job. I was already taking days off because you know, my summit, I took two days off for the summit. Like literally I was like good paying job or no. And he's like I'm straight up like I already knew I plan to summit back in January, so PT or not, I was taking the days off, you know, and then like the week after that, and before I made when I were actually officially resigned, I was gonna take off anyways again and go to the man and, um, and go to a out of town boot camp that I went to. So, um, it is what it is like, I wasn't, I wasn't stressing when it comes to them, like, I'll make up the time or I'm just not gonna do it and what they're gonna do just write me up. Let me go. And that's the whole thing. Like somebody's like, oh, no, let me go. No, you you got the power to proceed for I remember when I was having a girl yesterday, I was in my car. And we're talking and she and she basically works, like 20 minutes or like any like where she could she could have got a job that was like probably like in a five mile radius if she got a job and like a 1520 minute radius. And I'm like, until it's 20 mile radius. I'm like, why? And I think she like Well, I kind of like she was like small thinking I had to just check her. It wasn't even on entrepreneurs, but I just had to check her like, at the end of the day, yeah, you found a job jobs. It's hard to find and stuff like that. But it's anytime you find something first, and then you basically keep on finding something better, you don't just get comfortable. And stuff like that. Because at same time that job is there, there's going to be a point in time where you're not going to be around that job. And some people just like, oh, well, and then she was making excuses about Oh, my baby father. He didn't give me no money. We
don't got nothing to do with the money.
Unknown Speaker 31:16
Down with the money.
Nothing to do with nothing, right? Because I was gonna tell you like, I don't care whether it's a good job or not. Right, I've left
Unknown Speaker 31:26
$6,000 Yeah, I
left. That's crazy. Yeah, like, I'll walk, I'll walk from anything. I don't care how much money you're paying me. Because fulfillment and purpose is worth everything. And sometimes, I feel like you got to have that money in your hand to really understand how much fulfillment is really worth. Because once you get it and you go, Oh, but look at what I'm sacrificing for it. It really eats away at you, you really start to question what type of person you are. Right? And this is this is for myself, this is what happened, right? I can't speak for anybody else. I started to question what type of person I was, I say, am I the type of person that says that I'm going to do something? And then something comes along and distracts me? Or am I going to step out and do this regardless? Now, too many people leaving a $200,000 a year job may be stupid, but I don't care. Right? Because too many of the people who say that is stupid, they may never work a $200,000 a year job. Because
Unknown Speaker 32:32
it's like, I love the fact you've said fulfillment. And that's what the facts of the matter is like, is this job really fulfilling you to what you want to do in life? And a lot of people who don't have that mindset to understand, does this job keep me this job going to elevate me? Or is it going to execute me basically? And apart? I mean, literally, and that's literally what it is like, it's going to elevate me, it's the people that I hang around? Are they going to elevate me? Or are they going to, you know, just keep on executing me executing my goals. And, you know, downgrade in was really like, telling me oh, that's not unique to exci on at all it was in the students working on if I like, you know, like, it's really like, you know, when people try to do something that's different. You know, like, I remember, like, sometimes like me, my mom when I was like a little bit frustrated, and I was talking to my best friend of the day, and stuff like that, and I was telling her about how, you know, yeah, you know, sometimes you don't get invited, like, huge, like, she created a life that she has, you know, she has kids, she's a single mom, she has a kid, and she co parents and stuff like that, and she does what she does. And me I've created this life where it's like you said it gets lonely at times, it gets, I don't really get like, I don't get that I I'll come through to people's birthdays. Like, I mean, I'm gonna hands down people that have been supporting me, I'm gonna make a way without like those I don't, I don't try and miss those type of moments. unless they do something that's out of town out of budget, or whatever, something I'm gonna make sure I still hit you up, and stuff like that, like I did miss out on one of my friends from FedEx that I called, like, my uncle and his birthday. But, you know, he's like, the type of person that I'm pulling a little bit back from because of the fact that he means well, I know he got my back and stuff like that. But sometimes his energies are so negative to me, and I just can't be around that or like I can. That's the type of person I love from a distance. Because if you have that aura, that vibe that makes me like, Yo, I can't rock with you like that, then I'm not gonna rock with you like that. I might check up on you if I'm thinking of you, and stuff like that. But that's that, you know, and stuff like that. And I think I think that's what some people fail to really like, you know, one to one entrepreneur friends that I know, she said it best he said, when you are trying to grow in life and stuff like that the people that when your business is growing and when your life is growing there, they can't come with you. Some people are not gonna be will come with you. I honestly, over the years, it's been it's been heartbreaking. A little bit like especially last year, I had some heartbreaks, not even just from a relationship standpoint, I had some people that I had to cut off because they were like, I thought they were gonna be my ride or die and he was still gonna be by my side to this day. And I said well off like literally I had to come. I'm not I it took me to get yet last year towards the end of year with my first time really being starting to be like a cut off personnel. Usually I let them just like disappear and fly away did not in the year it started being me like, I mean like there was one guy that did if he did this, um, he fell off on his own. And he you know, he didn't he wasn't buying whatever, you know, momenti he had to go he and then I say time, one of the truest things that I could sell well, you get an argument with somebody if they can't keep it to the situation at hand. I don't care if they'd like if I know something about you, let's say, you know, like prime example. I know you're like you're you're no longer married and stuff like that. If I throw it on your face, and we're complaining about business inquiry and you thrown in my face and hitting it too low below it or talking about whatever other stuff little stuff that we talked about. That's just like negative. Oh, that's what you really thought about me. Okay, I can't do what you know more.
Right? Like you got. That's when you got to hit him with the training. There you go. Okay.
Unknown Speaker 36:00
Oh, I did. Okay. Okay. Okay, well, I'm like, I'm not gonna go back and forth with a little kid little boy. And stuff. Like, I'm like, listen, because he's trying to go, oh, that's what you got daddy issue. That's what you got this. And I'm like brah. Like, really? I could have went, I could have went to bat and went back and talked about his mom's and I'm like, Nah, it's not worth
it. Because you weren't? You know, what's the craziest part is that people don't understand why people that get into business get very stoic. And what seems like they don't get a Radek or emotional. A lot of people are calling this oh, well, you know, let people be human. And then some people use like, again, a lot of people, my people that are into business, no negativity around them, right? And people wonder why is that is like, cuz you can't make money in that space. And nobody wants to come in, put money in your hand while you're in that space. And even if I have a disagreement with you, me and Shay, I'll be very honest with you say you made this you may be learning something about me. You could look at me right now and go fuck you. And then I figure out that you got some business going on? I'm like, Hey, what's good? Let's talk this mission. Right? And that's been a shift in my mindset. I did Episode Three about that where it was? Are you willing to work with the enemy? Right?
Unknown Speaker 37:19
Gotta keep your enemy closer. Listen. No, it is but some people would like it depends on their energy and their vibe. Like, wasn't it like, I remember, like, another girl was cool, was cool for like, six, seven months, and he was introduced by my coach at the time, my coach gonna coach her. And I was like, Alright, cool. You got and then we went on to barter, like, if anything I like you learn from your spirits. And so she was the last person I will really do barter with. Because simple fact is one. Once I had another opportunity, it's like, oh, well, you're not paying me. But you pay that person. And she got upset. And I'm like, it has nothing to do relate it. So what's the work you're doing? So she got upset about that. And then she cut off ties and then kid you not like three, four months later, she reached out to me. And I remember we had a deal like okay, you do this for me. You will be one of the people on a woman I mentioned platform. Why when I started marketing a woman on a mission, so you know, your speakers, blah, blah, blah. She started reaching out to me, I'm like, I'm not answering his phone. Like I'm not answering his phone. And it wasn't it wasn't out of spite. That's the whole fact the matter. I was the people that either I cut off or they cut me off. I'm leaving them in 2021. Like literally, like, I'm leaving them in 20. Like, especially last year. I like that. So like when I when I like I mean, like even a situation when I was telling you right before we left before we started this podcast, I was like, you know, yeah, I had my weakest moments. But I'm like, at the end of day, I basically snapped back into I'm like, yo, that's so 2021 Like, literally like, I can go check that person's page on Twitter. And I'm like, but I still like, at the end of day, like ain't nothing like really special was going on with that person, or whatever the case may be and you realize
you've been working on moving forward towards your mission. And if you go back to where people was they in the same spot. So that's what stopped making me feel sad about it. I'm good. I don't need you to come with me. I'm gonna just come visit you every now and again. I'll visit you. Right and that's really hard.
Unknown Speaker 39:08
We're human. We're human. So I mean, you might have popped up and looked at an x ray quick or looked at our ex partner like well done. And he like, oh, well, you do the same damn stuff two, three years ago, ain't changed nothing. It wasn't even like hey, are you downgrade and you know a lot you know, like you you drive it around on your car's parked in the driveway when no plates on right now? Like, you know, I've seen that too. Like, what what happened? You have $5,000
Unknown Speaker 39:36
You insane like literally like, you know, like the you know what the whole fact of the matter is, okay, let's talk about money real quick, because things and stuff like that. We've blown it. You know, I've had 5000 in the bank before I've had you know, I've had you know, several 1000s in the bank and four at one time, but we better save time because we don't know how to test it and we all know how to properly so Save to invest. We don't, we just wasn't like one of my one of my new clients, I'm helping her and she told me recently, like, literally, like, I'm like, yo, where all your tax money she like all went to the coach and helped my daughter and like, just like that went kinda to investment but at same time, you know, like me, I have like a three split rule. Whenever I do whenever I have big chunks, or especially when it comes to big chunks of money, it's at least to like, close as much as possible 1000, I split it three ways. And stuff like that, anything 1000 or higher, I split it three ways, I split it to put a portion of it to my bill, put a portion of it to savings, and then put a force rent to investments. That way, I don't take myself out. That's honestly though, that's what the method I have. Some people go all in and just do one. But at the same time, I believe like me being like, I'm going to build up to because I don't have the 3d. So you got to be reasonable. You gotta build up to the three to six months. That's my that's my goal for a quarter to what I have one month or two months of my bills paid ahead. Before by June 30, I will have at least one or two months paid ahead.
I look at it this way, right. I'll be very honest, I know. You know, we are in the market where we get told that no coaches are an investment. But I gotta be honest with you. Every app, there's there's a couple of us, right on this entrepreneur track that has paid probably a couple of coaches. And you realize that a coach mindspace, right, that that wasn't a great investment, you made a bad investment. Right? So again,
Unknown Speaker 41:41
it depends on you got to know what your goal is, like, one of the things I learned more from a coach is knowing what the goal is like, what Makarenko should I hire, I want him to make sure that he can set me up to get coaching you to get speaking engagements, right. You know, stuff like that. Some code, like mindset coaches, like at first I was like, I'm still anti mindset coaches, just basically, okay, I'm gonna basically help you from poor and limiting the bleep poor mindset to limiting beliefs and get you to growth mindset. And that's it, I believe that there got to be a middle ground, okay, you can get them to like the middle part, you could get them into the middle of the program by that point. And then you got to get them to the point of investing. So there's definitely should be winning from a mindset coach, in my opinion, they should be they should be a little bit of a business standpoint, that's why I say I'm a mental fitness coach, because I train your mind train your mindset to eventually be business mindset. That's the overall like, you know, in in working with schools to be more with entrepreneurs, I'm not picking just anybody that is like, Oh, well, I just want to get my mindset. Right. Okay, cool. Well, I probably can take a consultation call with you, we can have a one on one, I am working on picking my brain type of sessions and stuff with a you just pay a one time shot and stuff like that. But overall, I'm at it in a process. Like if you're not trying to get more than one stream of income, let's solidify getting one stream of income. And then as I started diversifying, to more,
and this is where I'm going with that you got to you have to look at the coach, right, and not just what they've accomplished, because some people can't help you accomplish what they've accomplished. Right? You got to understand if somebody has a program around something and you have an X factor, like you have a different product, a different service, you got to understand your market. Right? I think a lot of people are that we're putting too much power in the hands of other people in saying this person is supposed to get me to point B, right? They're supposed to help you get to a point
Unknown Speaker 43:29
right? And but they're also you got to look at what the program offers to become DIY. Do it yourself and done for you is two completely things that's offered in a program. And if if, if a coach on his offer DIY, I'm from my experience of beston and we're gonna take an entrepreneurs series start taking an entrepreneur journey seriously in 2017. And now, I've came to the point where I'm in if you don't offer some type of DFI in your program, I won't accept your program. I won't I won't do a self help program. I won't do a self help program. No more I've got enough of them.
And some of also for the coaches right for the coaches out there. You need to understand you shouldn't be talking about def why for low prices as well. Right like because there's I think we also have to retrain the market to understand like, people if you are beginner don't come to me for DEF why services, I can't talk to you about building your website and you have no copy. Right? Just because I also right copy those are two different services. This is expensive, right? So if you
Unknown Speaker 44:35
want to pay it if you're willing to bear with the whole thing, you got to know how to negotiate and I think that's when people don't know how to do sales like you can, you can make away there's coaches that if you felt like my whole career coach, I made a superb negotiation with him. I didn't have the full 1500 But I made a I counteracted it and he accepted it. You know, and stuff like that. And it wasn't a whole fact of matter is it was one because I basically built a relationship with Him. If I was just a random newbie and said, Hey, A I don't got this info, but I'll do this, this is what you need not so yeah, what's the relation with that person?
I'd rather that person than some of the people I get mad. I'm what I'm telling you, I get people like, oh well you know I don't got nothing right now but I'm trying to build something and it's like well build it off for the free information because
Unknown Speaker 45:20
well this is what you This is and this is why I'll come back to when I told you like what one I've started my investment right now and it's because of a good reason because my home first and you know a different one for somebody is definitely gonna still pay you are you on top of her head compared to somebody that just needs just that sometimes somebody just need a break in and they just really are, you know, they just really need that that space and stuff like that where they need to basically clear up some stuff like me, I'm communication with any any investment I'm 100% committed to paying, I'm gonna tell him like, Yo, this is what it is. I'm not playing a soccer game, I stole my collectors before I start my investments. And that's the real you can call me text me say, hey, I want to do business with you, hey, you owe this money, I am stalling you, over my investments that I feel that's important, that's gonna help me elevate to eventually pay you back pay the collectors. The investments always come come come a higher priority over collections. Because at the end of the day, you know, I think there's so many people get caught up like, Oh, I gotta have my credit, perfect, I gotta have this perfect, and they never get started. Or they never, they never started in business, because they don't know what to do like you. There's every mistake, every entrepreneur has made some type of mistake, and they got stories for days, they got more failure stories over success stories.
That is true, that is very true. And I will say this, I will say this, if you are in the very beginning stages, right? And maybe you've had one or two failures, look for a DIY space that actually teaches you something, right? Take the DIY space, if you're in the very beginning stages, once you know that you got a solid business, then step in with the group coaching or done with you or DF why?
Unknown Speaker 46:57
And the reason I am straight one on one and see what the what the coach is offering. Yeah,
I don't want to once. No,
Unknown Speaker 47:04
it depends. It depends on what the what the offer with the call I don't grow. It is because of you mean I've done group and it doesn't doesn't you know, one on one, I'm gonna direct access to that person as making what that is,
as a very beginner. That's what I'm saying. Like if you're if you're just starting out a brand new beginners, like my
Unknown Speaker 47:22
one, I'm talking about what you said once the business is built old structure?
Oh, no, once your business is built, I don't even suggest one on ones you it's not I don't consider it a one on one you should be hiring a consultant. Like so for example, if you hire me, you're not hiring a coach, you're hiring a consultant and I'm operating within your business. I'm not dealing with you. Right? I'm dealing with your processes and
Unknown Speaker 47:45
just to into that consoling perspective, from a coaching perspective, a coaching perspective is teaching you on things that you're lacking in your business compared to in their tracks on work on your business consultant is doing an operation and you're you're meeting up with them and saying hey, these are the changes so that's like a website coke coke copywriter.
Alright, so then question? Yeah, hey, do you think that people are going for coaching services when they really need consulting services?
Unknown Speaker 48:14
I think that causality is necessary. And yeah, you when you really know your business is definitely functional. But if your business is not, if your business not making enough sales, it needs to be coaching. If your business is if your if your business needs helps in the operation standpoint, then that's when you go to a consult. So it depends on where your business stands and stuff like that you need to push honestly the sales so you can afford to close on Well, I mean,
so even if it is sales, let's say your business isn't making enough sales but part of the problem is your structure website, you or something like that, or sales copy even you can
Unknown Speaker 48:50
a copywriter right hire honestly, I hire a lot. I outsource a lot. Can I allocate my time? True story? When I did 75 hard I had a lot of my groceries shipped to me, mind you, I was working from home, and stuff like that. And people thought that some people think that when you have stuff delivered to you, it's lazy. No, I don't I don't want I got ahead. And when I was working at FedEx, because I understood what I got. It got annoying when people were ordering stuff that was like heavier to me, and was ridiculous color was heavier than me telling me like literally I got a picture you look at if you scroll through my Facebook, I literally was laying on one of the boxes. It was like a couch set and stuff like that. So, um, those type of packages I got hurt me but you know, packages like I mean, I've missed FedEx, too. So I mean, I did I shipped stuff through FedEx all the time, too. So it's the whole fact of matter is I learned the fact that anything that's going to allocate my time and save you like I literally when I was put in the final stages of writing my book. I literally had my groceries delivered to me and I had breakfast, lunch and dinner. Well, I whenever I'm a small I'm a I'm a small eater, so I'll order it All in package and in Gotcha. And stuff like that but long story short I did that all and then I was able to complete right my editing my book within like five hours and I didn't have to leave my house at all because you know you got to be no one I live in Buffalo so ya know what Buffalo New York we get snow. So I gotta just gotta heat up my car dust off the snow. Are you from Brooklyn? So you know that all about that life? Yeah. But you But you understand like you had, like, during that time when I was editing my book, I will have to do all that. What that's like what a good and then I had to shovel like my landlord had
Unknown Speaker 51:09
like I was saying and our sources you need to so that you can work on your business more anything that you that's going to save you time to start your business. Do so do so. So you could work more your business and everything like that, like, Yes, I mean, people I can't stand one person's call them solopreneur. And I'd like the day when you have to go to Office Max day when you have to ship something out FedEx the day when you have to, um, you know, you have to do something that you can't do physically yourself, that's when you no longer are solopreneur. And you and at the same time solopreneur like solopreneurs don't last that long. Because in a day, you need to have a team if you feel like you want to want to do your business. Long term, you got to basically want to fire yourself, you know, that's what I'm really learning. And that's what I'm positioning myself in every aspect of any part that any business idea to have. I have an idea I learned how to do it. And then I'm gonna outsource and have somebody take it over. And I just monitor like Grant Cardone already know grant, one of the top things that I know, on Grant cardones, first beginning of the day, he asked us for his financial statement every single day, so he can look through the numbers, and then he can probably his day, and everything like that. That's what he does every single day, Monday, Sunday through Saturday, every single day, where I look at what I'm looking at. That's that's what that's what the rule is. And that's what I would do. Like when you really get to that point where you have multiple streams of income. You know, the whole thing is Mike, my coaching and my coaching, and my speaking will be always my top dominant business. But the other businesses that I envisioned to have like vendor vendors, vending machine, Airbnb, Amazon, whatever other products, real estate and stuff like that, those will be those, those will be tagged with a management assistant, and stuff like that, and everything like that. And you know, the coaching will still be virtual assistant. But the whole fact of matter is, I will be able to the whole, you know, like the one book that I read, I actually know the author, his name is Tony whitely. He wrote a wrote the book side side hustle millionaires, he says in his book, and he and he's spoken about it wherever we've done podcasts. And he's one of the first individuals that are in demand on a mission Summit. He said that you got to you got to basically you got to basically be able to position your business to basically sale. So like I know some people that's right now from a coach's space, they're selling off their business in do you get to take their clientele, you could take their groups coaching, their whole fat, they get their whole platform and stuff like that you can purchase it for XYZ amount of money they want to be out. That's, if I want to do that. I'll get myself in a position to do that right now. That's not my space right now. But that's the goal.
What you mean that actually, they have their entire setup? They sell in the in the business, not the structure, not the system, they're selling the business.
Unknown Speaker 53:53
They're selling everything, the system in the business. They want to be doing email. Yes,
email lists to everything. Let me add some context. I got to boost my email list to 10,000 Would we talk about
Unknown Speaker 54:09
I mean, people aren't doing it you are that's honestly the way to do it. Like if somebody like me, like when people are trying to get rid of their real estate, not as real when they try to sell a real estate company. You know, that's what they supposed to do.
That's real. That's real. All right. So we're now at the point in the podcast where we would do story for story. Second Story four story is a segment that we do where you share a story with me and I share story back with you right, so here's the thing this could be any type of story this can be a wild story. This can be a crazy story. We know a che so we're not gonna get no crazy wild sex story, guys. That's I don't I don't feel like I would get that from you. That's just maybe I'll
Unknown Speaker 54:58
work with that. I'm not exactly One conservative type I'm definitely
right exactly so I'm just letting everybody else know right so that's the section that we're in you give me a story I'll give you a story
Why don't you know it froze again today the roughest there we go so that story for a story basically you share something while with me. I share something I share your story back with you ready?
Unknown Speaker 55:49
Alright, so I gotta I gotta go first. You go first. You go first. Story time. Um Now you might have to go for it. Like I still think All right, I think I think us man could have
no problem I don't give nobody heads up.
Unknown Speaker 56:09
I didn't know this segment though. I didn't know the segment.
The only people that go ahead but heads up are people that like really went in and they research right if you catch a research
Unknown Speaker 56:18
I say if I don't like story about it, definitely. I mean, I shouldn't I shouldn't be experienced with this. And I'm just I'm like little blocked right now with stories. I mean, cuz I don't know if I want to go relationship wise or I want to go okay, boom, since we you know, made an omission I go there. I stuff like that how to man on a mission summit came about. So the guy I was talking to about two and a half three years ago, helped them move up here from Texas got him a whole fresh start and everything like that. We had a debate. I just got finished with a woman on a mission Summit. No, actually, I didn't do the woman I mentioned the man in the mission. Someone was the first time I actually did. So. Long story short, um, we had a big he has this big sexism thing that he says, Well, women this and women that and men don't get recognized. I'm like, You know what, that I'm gonna prove it. I'm gonna prove you wrong. And I'm gonna do I'm gonna come up with a whole cast and get it get a cast of men of all different variables to and we're going to uplift and put men in a different perspective. And basically show how good men are shout
out to that brother that reverse psychology do to get us a platform. Thank you, brother.
Unknown Speaker 57:28
Yeah, so he's no longer in existence. I really thought he was gonna be the one and stuff like that, but his immature ways. And he walked away from, you know, he said, I wasn't his type, which he was. I mean, he said that numerous times, but he gave it a try. And long story short, he still wasn't vibing with it moved on. And then literally, I kid you not six months later, last November, right? My birthday, he tried to reach out to me and move in with me. Um, but long story short, the man in a mission Summit. Yeah, I guess you bring on the pettiness of me a little bit. But why are you blaming me for this? But long story short, the man on a mission came out to be inspired for men to show a different cause women well, I mean, always do here women and for me and him always having debates, like women always saying men ate this, the men are like, Alright, I'm gonna get some good quality man that's doing things around the world. And last year, I didn't do it not because we wasn't broken up just because of just life. Like I was getting things situated on apartment. So I was all in my apartment, and stuff like that. So I just shut things down. This year will be happening. And I need to send out those emails. So Mr. Ambitious shouldn't be one of them, and stuff like that. But that's how the man and the mission came about and stuff like that. It is basically a show, showcase a woman leading men into stay in that yard doing the damn thing Do I need to be recognized? So that's the story demanded permission.
Okay, so I have a very similar story, right? Um, so I want to say a couple years back when the first one we did was and 2016 or 2017, right? I can't remember whether it's 2016 or 2017. But we were, I was real heavy into martial arts. And one of my teachers, I kept telling him, hey, I want to put on a seminar I want to put on a seminar. So he said to me, he turned to me and goes, I looked, go ahead, put together your seminar. Came back to me, he goes, I think we should do a seminar for women. And I said, huh, right, because now No disrespect ladies. I was imagining that I was going to get to put together this cool martial arts seminar where I can be my little martial arts nerd myself, right? No, no, that's not what I got to do. Right? I didn't get to geek out and learn with a whole bunch of people. I still got to geek out it was still a pretty dope time. But instead, what we ended up doing was something much more impactful. We created something called women's warrior weekend, right? So we put together It wasn't just the martial arts, it was a three day it was a three day weekend, where we brought people out. We had presentations the first night, in terms of defending yourself. A lot of the martial artists that I have around me had concepts on self love, and the killer instinct and protecting oneself being synonymous with loving oneself. The second day came around, we had, you know, self defense training, we had firearm training out in Berdoo Canyon, if you're out in California, there's a open range where it's one of those mountain ranges where you don't actually need there's no instructor there's no guidance, right, you just fire off into the range. So we took them out there. And that was pretty cool, right. And, of course, we had safety, myself being a former or not former prior US Marine, right? Once a Marine, always a Marine. But then we also had some other shooters out there with me. So I got supported by my brothers, and we put on this dope ass event, had one brother doing tai chi, another sister came through and did yoga, we did hikes, and they was doing herbalism all of this for one weekend, right. The last one we did was 2019. And I think the ladies, the where I left it off in 2019 was, I was trying to hand it over to a woman that had this pretty much within her mission. Because I feel like No, it's cool to get things started. But everything shouldn't rest on me, as you said earlier, right? And it wasn't something I was trying to profit from. But it did become something really cool where it was kind of like you shouting out how men was a men are actually doing something this was, you know, men coming together and teaching women how they can protect themselves and participate within their protection. So we did, we did about three or four of them.
Unknown Speaker 1:02:00
Yes, this was a All right. All right, I'm gonna do to miss the train story. So as I mentioned earlier, when we doubling up, Oh, you want to do ces 2022. So you might I, um, I missed the train. Two weeks ago, I went to them. Um, I went to Staten Island for business bootcamp. And I had all my stuff with me. I was early to the train station, everything was so excited. I was talking to my mentee, she was on board with some stuff I was talking about my new coach, things are so good. I was like, No, that was my first full week of being, you know, done with my full time job and everything. Man, I mess I left my book back in the in the car. So by the time I realized that everybody was boarding the train, I was like, Oh, crap, dirt. At first, I thought I left it in the bathroom, nope. And went to go chase my car, down. Train drove off. So indirectly, I had to do the lucky thing that bootcamp wasn't far from me. It wasn't like a plane or anything like that. It was literally it was six hours away. So basically, I'm a reimbursement and how to drive and stuff like that. And, you know, the whole fact of matter is, this is the story of you got to you got if you really want something as bad as you can breathe, you got to go out and get it. And you know, that's that's literally, there was nothing stopping me from being at that, at that, at that at that event. And it worked itself out that it wasn't like it was three days away, and stuff like that, or three, you know, like driving distance and stuff like that. So it was only six hours away. So when I got there, three, I got there three hours earlier than the train did. and stuff. And then on my way back, I was able to go to Waffle House. I don't know if people know about waffle house like that, like Waffle House is big and big. Yeah, I don't have it and we don't have it in Buffalo. So I found it in like, northern spot. Coming on the way back and like oh, I had to make a detour in Pennsylvania. Yeah, found a spot in PA. Oh, yay. Yeah.
Wow scene was in North Carolina man.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:07
Now there's one like there's a one we really know about everybody knows about isn't Ohio. It's in Cleveland. So um, so for that. So we but now I'm like this one. This one actually closer. It's like two and a half, three hours away from Buffalo. So
you missed the train and found a waffle house.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:23
Yeah, we might have found a waffle house coming back. So yeah. Yeah. So
this one is gonna let y'all know why I prefer to be an adult speaker, because these are how my stories go. Right. So this was right after my father passed away. I'm home on emergency leave, right. And my best friend is the only person that's rocket like I'm going everywhere with him. So this is my first time back in Brooklyn. And we now adults like so we know young men. I think I'm like, my father passed away in 2011. So I'm 20 Right? I'm 20 I got money in my pocket because, you know, I'm a Marine. I came over with some cash, right? And, you know, it's not a happy moment. But notice the first time I saw my friend and he is so he kept me loudly kept my spirits up. So he said, Amen. We was just walking back and forth. Right, two separate events happening. So we walk in, we're heading down Utica, right. And cops pull up on us on camera and go, Hey, where y'all coming from? I look like suspects. I'm like, yo, I went off, right? I went to a feature on a homeboy, he's like, Yo, those cops you called gets locked up. Look like somebody. I just got hit. Right. I'm going off because
Unknown Speaker 1:05:41
you know my motion with dad.
I'm like, I just fucking got it. I'm in the military. So they was like, Look, let me see ID and then also new military ID gets you out of everything. Okay. So I got the curse. I wasn't gonna say like, I co Ed go, right. So he said, You know what, bro? Let's go to the strip club. I'm like, bro, where's this strip club in Brooklyn? Like, what strip club is in Brooklyn? He's like, Nah, it's one out in Queens. I was like, You go do it. He's like, Nah, I usually, you know, I use doing some work over there. So I know what's over there. So we go out over there. Could you not we go to the strip club. This is the worst hole in the wall strip club like this. Three, three solid women, right everybody else? Like I'm pretty sure I saw a gunshot wound in the ash sheet. I'm I'm damn sure it was that type of vibe. Right? So night goes on. We meet up with two girls. I say you know what? Next day I'm going shopping. Right? So they come over to us with us to Soho. And we say I'm going shopping. I bought a pair of products. And you know one of the girls is with me one of the girls with him. We say I look we got a 20 year old men. What do you think we tried it we closed the deal this night. Right? So we go to a liquor store. I don't know if you remember Ed Hardy the shirts. We went in and Ed Hardy had vodka. I didn't know Ed Hardy. I was like yo Ed Hardy got vodka. We bought it we went to this hotel. And you know he's you know he I think he left the room with his girl. Me and My girl is in a room. Whatever happened I'm drunk off this Ed Hardy vodka. I wake up my plane is supposed to leave the next morning because we already did my father's memorial in order that I miss my flight hmm right. So hear me on the phone with my Corporal now I'm like yeah, we was late getting into the to the airport there was a car accident we got in a car accident so I couldn't get there. I'm gonna miss the flight. He said oh, you know no problem that just don't get on your next flight coming in be safe. Listen once he said that was he said that I was like I cool route to a flat out tomorrow. Did the same thing the next night. I didn't miss the flight the next morning.
Unknown Speaker 1:07:59
Oh man. Oh man. That was about as though so. Yeah, I like to store a 32nd video. Yeah, that definitely suits yours since you're as well and stuff like that. So love it. Love it.
So is there anything you want to leave our listeners with? What is the last thing you would leave them with? Uh, how can you get a hold of you?
Unknown Speaker 1:08:17
Ah, first and foremost as easy Shanna mentioned across the board I'm referring back to my real name on Facebook more so you can follow me more on Shreya Walker on Facebook because just you know indirectly how Facebook is set up that the business page is only good for Facebook ads. They really that ain't really that useful or for anything else so getting back a little bit personal so follow me on shred Walker maybe I'll somehow type away chanted santiment I don't know. But either way um, you know Shana will Sherea Walker for Facebook and LinkedIn and then Shana mission on everything else. Instagram Tik Tok YouTube and yeah, I'll have snap and stuff like that. Um, I just want you to basically everybody walk away with knowing that if you want if you want to better go out and get better, you either have the choice in life to stay stuck or unstuck. The choice is yours and you know, leap of faith is can be a beautiful thing. It can be a scary thing. But if you really need to really take the next level of wanting to take a leap of faith holla at me and I definitely have experience with it. It's not going to be easy row but if you really want to go full time as an entrepreneur, I can definitely assist you with that. And just DM me on Instagram I'm always on my do I follow my DMs a lot through Instagram so all you gotta do this DME Chanda mission I'm here
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